Some couples divorce on good terms and truly want to help their soon-to-be former spouses succeed. However these are rare cases. Most divorces have a battleground and that battleground is usually money and children.

The court system is complicated and you need an advocate that will protect you. While attorneys are often perceived in a negative light, a good divorce attorney is absolutely necessary. Unfortunately, that negative perception has been earned by attorneys who have not represented their clients honestly yet still have demanded hefty fees. But you can weed out the bad from the good.

• Go to the courthouse and ask the court clerks which attorneys handle the most divorces in your area. If you have time, research the cases to see which attorney wins the most in situations similar to yours.
• Learn how the court system works. If you have time, sit in on one or two divorce cases that are being heard.
• Find an attorney that specializes in family law. Don’t believe this is their specialty because of an ad in the phone book. Again, ask questions to people other than the divorce attorney.
• Don’t be afraid to shop around. Your attorney is the key to your success in your divorce. Consider several before deciding on one.

Once you have narrowed your list down to two or three attorneys, interview them before choosing one. Some key questions you should ask are:

• How much will this cost me? If they give you a low amount, the attorney may be desperate and just trying to get your business. A high priced attorney does not mean high quality. If you choose to spend a lot of money, make sure the attorney is worth the cost. Ask if payment arrangements are available.
• Find out what is included in the estimate. Will the attorney charge you every time he or she sends a fax or takes a phone call on your behalf? Will a paralegal be doing some of the work at a lower hourly rate? Get details.
• How often has this attorney tried divorce cases in this courtroom? Getting a sharp out of town attorney can penalize you if you are in small community.
• When conducting these interviews, look for an attorney that makes you feel comfortable. Your attorney is your partner in your divorce as you attempt to stand up for your rights. If you don’t feel like you can express your feelings openly to your attorney, you are likely will not be successful in court.

If you suspect a divorce is imminent or if you recently separated, don’t delay in finding an attorney. Don’t let your ex be the first one to strike, particularly if a bitter battle is ahead of you. You need that advocate by your side as soon as possible.

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(c) 2008 Cathi Adams.

Cathi Adams is the author of “Divorce Secrets: What Every Women Should Know.” This invaluable resource provides steps to ensure financial security to woman faced with the possibility of divorce. Visit her web site for a FREE report -What You Absolutely Must Know Before You Even THINK About Getting A Divorce: http://www.DivorceDefense.com http://www.DivorceCourtSecrets.com

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• You don’t have to lose custody of the kids.
• You won’t necessarily have to pay alimony to your wife.
• You won’t necessarily have to pay exorbitant child support to your wife, for the “care” of your children.
• You won’t necessarily have to give her the house and car, while you hang on to all of the bills.

It Is True – The American Legal System Does Favor Women In Divorce Court

In many cases, it may be right for the legal system to favor the wife, but not in all cases.

A friend of mine from high school went through a divorce and he lost big!

His ex-wife got his daughter full-time, and he is lucky to see his child once a year. His ex-wife got a huge child-support payment and a sweet alimony check in divorce court.

When I met back up with my friend several years after high school, he and his second wife were trying to support five kids, while living in a three bedroom shack - and I do mean shack. They had to live in a shack, because she worked for minimum wage, and he paid 70% of his take-home pay to his ex-wife in the form of child support AND alimony!

In my friend’s case, he had a good job when his first wife divorced him, so the hefty child support and alimony seemed consistent with the lifestyle his wife had come to expect while being married to him. He just rolled with whatever she asked and did not fight for his own rights. He still regrets that decision, but he insists, “what can he do?”

In his case, one year after his wife divorced him, his employer went under and he lost his job. While he was out of work, he got behind on his child support payments. As soon as my friend got behind on the child support and alimony payments, she began to withhold his oldest child from him, and she started pursuing him in the courts as a deadbeat dad. The courts now withdraw his child support and alimony from his check, before he even sees his paycheck.

While he was out of work, she married another fellow, who earned more than my friend had earned when he and his wife divorced. So although his wife did not need the child support or alimony anymore, she continued to receive it, because he did not know that he could go back to court to have the judgment adjusted – and even if he did know, he could not afford to hire an attorney to help him.

His ex-wife earned more of his paycheck for his oldest child, than he and his wife were able to earn to raise his next five children.

When I had met back up with my friend from high school, he was earning just 50% of what he was earning when his divorce was finalized. By this time, he had been paying the ex-wife for ten years, with no hope of ever getting out from under her thumb for at least another seven years.

Some people accept their fate, but that does not mean that you should accept what your soon-to-be ex-wife wants to dole out to you!

Don’t Let This Happen To You!

The truth is that there is a lot a divorce attorney can do to help the men win in divorce court, but that is an insider secret that divorce attorneys don’t like to share. Divorce lawyers make good money making minced meat out of the guys that they face in divorce court, and many consider it in their best interest to keep the men on the losing side in divorce court.

Divorce attorneys don’t want men to know that there are tips and tricks they can use to help the men win in divorce court.

As you keep reading, remind yourself how useful Insider Secrets can be. In every area of your life, you know that Insider Secrets can be of assistance to you to get a leg up on whatever you are doing. Divorce Court is no different – those who have the inside track on how the divorce court system works are the best people to teach you how to navigate this landmine filled territory.

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Common Mistakes Men Make In Divorce Court

The first thing you need to understand is that divorce attorneys do not give a hoot about you or your hopes and dreams. The attorney serves you in court, only because he is looking for your money. Your divorce lawyer will not make more or less money from you, based on his performance in court. You are a paycheck, pure and simple, regardless of whether you win or lose in court. And besides, he has legal assistants to handle most of the actual work for him.

Your lawyer is in business to make money – not to help you win.

The second thing you need to understand is that you should never permit your divorce attorney to handle your case on his own, without direction from you. If you leave your fate in the hands of your attorney, your fate is going to squash you like a bug.

Get Educated and Knowledgeable About Divorce Legalities and Divorce Court

As with everything else in life, a good education will help you to be more successful.

This is why you need to immerse yourself into the legalities of the divorce process and how to be your own best advocate. There is only one person in this world who will look out for your best interests – and that person is you!

Everyone else is rooting for your wife.

A good education into the divorce process begins with Jim Williams’ book, “Insider Secrets and Strategies That Men Must Know to Win Their Divorce!”

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• Why women file for divorce at twice the rate of men – plus, the #1 reason women file for divorce and how to turn this to your advantage during the divorce proceedings!
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• A simple tip that will quickly and easily prevent your wife from hiring the best divorce lawyers in town – you’ll be amazed – and extremely grateful – when you read this amazing tip!
• The biggest mistakes you can make with your divorce lawyer – and how to avoid each of them and save yourself thousands of dollars in the process!
• The tax implications of a divorce settlement – and how to ensure you get a tax break instead of a big tax bill in the spring!
• How to win a divorce without ever even having to go to court – these tips could save hundreds of dollars in court fees!
• How to get a great divorce settlement faster than you ever dared dream possible – and while spending less than you could ever hope for!
• How to dramatically lower your alimony payment – or even get rid of it all together!
• And much, much more!

Don’t let yourself go down the same road as thousands of men before you have gone down. If you let your divorce attorney handle your entire case on his or her own, you will lose in court.

If you want to keep custody of your children, or avoid punitive child support, alimony or divorce settlement, you need to learn how to become your own best advocate, and that begins with a top-notch education from an industry insider.

If you are a man who knows how to fight for his own best interests, you can win in divorce court, even in a court of law that is weighted against you.

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